They have far less to do with some “natural” progression of relationships or with “normal” limits that are arbitrarily deemed healthy because they fit common pathologies, than they do with acculturation into a system that has major hangups about sex, and a stilted bourgeois sense of propriety.īut, were it not so, I would not be seeing so many folks - straight, gay, and otherwise - whose relationships are falling apart because they’re trying to follow those “norms” and “proprieties” and have no idea how to communicate about it.Ī lot of this is very contextual. There are a lot of huge problem assumptions operating in the article and in some of the comments.
It helps when people have clear, honest communication about this with their intimates and/ or playmates, and when people stop throwing shade (with very persnickety moralism) and shaming the people who consciously choose to set parameters around their relationships and play that don’t match their own.
